The sunny and hot days are finally back. It is always around this time of the year that I go back to my natural hair and I must say that I really appreciate it. Braids, weaves, extensions are the solutions I use during the cold days to protect my hair and to make them grow but what I love the most is having them natural. Hence my desire to tell you about my hair and black people's hair in general after reading some comments (I didn't like) on Greta's blog, In Moda Veritas.
Like each time I'm seeing a post by Greta of In Moda Veritas on Bloglovin', I click and read.
Back in January I was reading a post of her section called "Inspiration". Greta throug it introduces us to women whose style inspire her. That time she wrote about Solange Knowles. Up to there, all was fine by me. I watched the pictures without paying too much attention to Solange outfits. Indeed I am a great fan of this woman but not because she is black like me nor because I like her music (which I am not a fan of if you really want the truth). I don't consider Solange a style icon but a femininity icon. What I like about this woman is the way she expresses her femininity, and though I said I wasn't sensitive to her being black I should correct my saying. What I like about her is the fact that as a black woman she is really proud of her hair. In my opinion for a lot of us, women, whatever the ethnicity, our hair or the absence of them is very important to us. After all, they are what make us women, hence my admiration for every woman having beautiful hair, and Solange just happens to be one of them.
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Solange Knowles |
Solange changes a lot her hairstyle but she always goes back to her afro look. In brief to hair without breads, extensions or weave. And rightly Greta in her post chose pictures in which she was sporting the afro hairstyle. Reading the comments below this post I stayed flabbergasted by the reactions of some readers : " This type of hair is inconceivable for me", "she is too hairy", " I like her style but if I were her I would do something with this hair". Reading this last comment I was like "but do what with her hair ?" Black people have curly and frizzy hair, besides, it really is like you see on both the pictures on the top. Black people are not born with braids, extensions or weave. Our hair while gaining in length also gain MUCH MORE in thickness, in brief the longer the thicker. And I can assure you that taking care of them is really time consuming. Solange perfectly explained it on Garance Doré blog here.
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People if you think that when we are born we are like that let me tell you HELL NO ! |
This post is certainly very partial, I mean reading the comments I remember swearing A LOT. I am black and I like letting my hair natural. Nonetheless I believe I wouldn't have written anything like this if I were in France. Living in Italy made such a huge difference for me because I am black. People are watching me more, sometimes there are mesmerized glances, sometimes there are glances that are telling me to go back to my country ,and when I say my country I mean where they are only people like me. I think I am more aware about it here in Italy because people when asking me where I am from often make strange faces when I answer France, and insist telling me "yes but where are you (really) from ?". Obviously this is my own experience and thankfully not every italian is like that.
In such a context I am often judged based on my appearance. In my case on my skin colour and my hair because I don't match with what italian people know. Hence a very stereotyped vision of black people. While I can understand that differences make people curious but also afraid I can't tolerate the comments I read on Greta's blog because on behalf of fashion and style these people don't seem to realize they could be considered racists. When a white girl (cringing writing this) has super long hair it is considered beautiful (or dorky..it depends on people's taste) but when a black girl has huge hair it is considered too hairy ? Why ?
To tell you the truth, the afro hairstyle is not part of the african culture but the braids are. According to me the History of Afro-american and African people is closely linked. First because African-american knew slavery and because the second one knew colonization. I am not here to judge but I can tell that those two experiences have generated in the USA around the 1850's the birth of methods to straighten our hair and make it similar to the occidental one. But slavery, colonization and segregation also gave birth to the afro hairstyle during the 1960's, the era of civil rights in the USA and the period of indipendence on the african continent. In such an atmosphere, the afro look embodied for black people, american or african, their identity, their pride. In brief there was a political and a social meaning behind a simple hairdo that we consider today a ridiculous fact of style.
I wouldn't usually write this kind of post because my being black with african roots is something which I consider a part of myself but this is not all what I am made of. But this time I think I needed to do it because it seems like even with the internet where we are given the possibility to google about everything people don't take time to get informations. I feel like the more tools we are given to inform ourselves the lazier we are becoming in actually looking for informations. I wrote about black people's hair but needless to say that my opinion is also valid for everybody and everything.
To read this post in italian click here.
ps : a while ago I did have my hair as big as Solange and my pictures there are here to tell "in 2013 my hair was this big". I really intend to make them big like before and have fun styling them. So for now say hello to my baby afro !
First, your hair look great. I am happy to see anyone be proud of who they are(inside and outside). And the connection of the afro hair with the pride of the community that you described above... that's new to me and I loved it. Another reason to read history :) (I would have never said this back at school, I saw it just like a subject) But now I often feel our futures our intertwined with the past, and it definitely helps understanding the present.
ReplyDeleteI could not understand a word at that Italian blog, but yes all over the internet you will find morons who make opinions without doing their research. Its funny how I was just reading a comment on some other blog, where this guy said dyslexia is a myth. I can sometimes only laugh on how ignorant people can be! Though its parallel to the comments you read, and that's why I shared it here.
Swati @ The Creative Bent
Thank you.
DeleteFew days ago I was chatting with a friend of mine who is from Guadeloupe, an overseas region of France located in the Carribean sea. France during the time of slavery brought there a lot of people from Africa hence the presence of black people there. Chatting together about our experience of being black we discovered we had much more in common than we thought and especially about our hair. So I guess time and location cannot definitely erase History and the roots.
I initially wrote the post in italian because I was REALLY pissed reading the comments but I did some research before doing it because my knowledge about the afro hairstyle was really vague (which means that googling to look for informations is not that hard ahahaah). You know like I said to you before about Italy and italian people are really particular. I bet the people who wrote these comments don't even feel that there's something wrong. Here in Bologna you have a lot of people coming from Pakistan who own pizzeria restaurants and sadly it happens that I hear "in my region it would be impossible to see a Paki making pizzas..", maybe they intend that italian food is better made by italian people, but hell this is just racist ! The problem is that it is common and that ignorance exists at every level of the society..
Thank you for the parallel, I totally see what you mean. Not only regarding people of different ethnicities but I've read so much crap on blogs about gay people or other subjects that just like you I could only laugh.
Thanks a lot for your comment and your tweets !
You are right googling is not hard at all. And even on the most technical topics, you can easily find "dummy" like explanation with ease. It is just that some people don't want to get the facts right and plus there are not enough people out there asking people to question popular mainstream ideas. A lot of people just pick up on ideas without giving it much thought and it really perpetuates from there. Say one Italian's aunt looks down upon 'Paki' (had to write that sadly) making Pizza, and the next thing you know the kid will repeat the thing in front of a friend and it goes on from there. Don't you think?
DeleteIn India too such beliefs spread fast or rather have been passed onto generations. No one ceases to ask the why, they just believe. I know this first hand as I would often ask my mom 'why this why that' and she would say I don't know my mom told me so. I ask my grandmother the same question and the answer is the same. Sometimes it gets on my nerves and sometimes its hilarious.
Swati @ The Creative Bent
I'm glad you wrote this post. I see ignorant crap on the internet about kinky and curly hair all the time. I can't wait until it's warm enough for me to start wearing my braidouts and twistouts again.
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And I am glad you commented it ! Before writing it, I made some research myself to be sure of what I was writing, so I am happy to see you react and confirming that there are still a lot of misconceptions about our hair !
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Shug
I have a horribly unruly head of hair, from the time I was a small child my mother was barraged with comments from strangers who advised her to brush my hair. Which, of course, she had done at home. I have a lifetime of photos of horrible hair cuts. My hair has always had a mind of its own and it took many years for me to come to embrace it.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine what kind of person feels compelled to make these kinds of comments in a public forum. Women really need to give each other a little breathing room and to accept that a person's personal style is just that, personal. Don't like it, don't wear it. If you don't have something nice to say...
Great read, thank you!
Cheers,
Madge
http://diydoyenne.com
Hello Madge,
DeleteFirst of all thanks a lot for your comment.
It was really good reading about your experience because it is indeed all about embracing your hair AND yourself. I also had hard times embracing my hair and myself as a black people because I grew up in France where obviously eventhough there are black people we are still a minority. So I grew up hearing this and that about my ethnicity and didn't like my self as a black people because I wasn't like the majority of my friends and above all like my dad who is white. I so wanted to look like him because I admired him a lot and wanted to be everything like him. Fortunately I have a very good dad who did everything to make me like who I am independently of my skin colour. He was the one to buy me my first make up kit, books to learn how to put make up, books for learning how to style my hair, he was and still is my best buddy when it comes to shopping. I am not saying that my mom wasn't part of my growing up as a woman, but I think I often speak more about my dad because my mother as an african woman didn't understand my needs or simply didn't know how to advise me. You know she was the first to tell me that a woman has to make herself beautiful but never actually learnt me HOW and as a consequence never understood my difficulties as loving myself as a black girl.
About the comments, in Italy people often justify these kind of comments because they didn't have any colony and as a consequence immigration coming from non european countries only started something like 15-20 years ago when in France it had already started before. So they justify their ignorance with History. But I disagree with this kind of behaviour because we have everything to inform ourselves and we are in an era where we are able to discover people from all over the world thanks to technology so I really don't understand why there is so much narrow-mindedness when we are so modernized.
It was really great reading your comment and (let me repeat myself) reading about your own experience with your hair :).
Cheers,
Shug
Well I was like this, I thank that Black people are born like this, then I went to the States and met some black girls and that was a huuuge shock:) But I was born in the shit hole where everyone was blond girl with blue eyes, like me:D
ReplyDeleteI had strong fascination with black woman. So strong that I was wearing once in high school the style like the girl on the second pic:) And then I lost half of my hair:)
But I was thinking about one thing - in some areas in Europe black hair style (braids especially) is quite popular among white girls - but mainly among girls who also like too much fake tan, too strong make up and too long nails. So you think white girl wearing braids, you thing tacky, just don't get it why:/
<3 Aneta
Hi my lovely! I think everybody is judged based on their appearance and I know as an Asian myself I am frequently judged with the whole nerdy stereotype. It's so hard to embrace your natural beauty - and in your case, your natural hair (which is beautiful, by the way) - when society and the media is constantly repeating that there is only one type of beauty. You are a strong, independent woman who is a great role model for younger girls like me - teaching girls to love themselves for who they are, even if there are so many people tearing you down. This was such an inspiring post. x
ReplyDeleteHello Bohmyi,
DeleteI am so proud you left me such a comment, you're the cutest ;) !
I have had a lot of issues with embracing my natural beauty for a long that is why I wish much more girls (and boys) would do the same. That's true that so society and medias constantly repeats there is only one type of beauty but I have read recently a very interesting (if I remember well Wonderland Magazine tweeted about it) about how models where picked up for a fashion show, and this based on their ethnicity. See, lately there were more asian models than usual on the catwalks, it was explained in the article that it was because the chinese market has become very important in fashion and obviously in other areas too, so they hired more asian models (majorly chinese and korean). So I'd say that is also have to do with business, economy.
It is such an honor you thought of me as a role model when I don't consider myself one because I am still "in construction". Being a woman isn't easy and is something that we learn to be throughout our lives, we may be born girls but it's only up to us to become wonderful women :).
Thanks a lot for your comment !
Shug,
See you !
Hi, I love your article and it is truly inspirational. As you said I'm glad that IFB chose your article and I hope a lot more people will read it and understand that we are all uniquely beautiful and there is not only one type of beauty and beauty is indeed diverse. I don't understand why people feel the urge to dictate how a person wears their hair something that is personal to them. People don't understand that hair can be a form of expression, an accessory just like a person's style choices are. But people seem to respect differences within people's style. I also think the fact that black people's hair in its natural's state is under represented in the media is why people can not accept it. Depending on where they live they probably have not seen a lot of black people in their community and the person they see are in the media so they take that as what it means to be beautiful for a black woman. Sad but true. I actually heard that recently, I think within maybe the past couple of weeks someone attacked her on twitter about it as well. Its funny how people think they are entitled to dictate people's personal choices. Loved your article by the way
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Dee
www.msdeekay.com
Hello Dee,
DeleteThanks a lot for your comment. I am really glad you found my article inspirational. Like I said I wrote very few about my being black and african origins because this is not all what I am made of, but reading the comments on this post I am wondering if I shouldn't do it to make people more aware.
Like for clothes, our hair mean so much things.
It is true that medias play a huge role in the perception of beauty nowadays but like I said we are in 2013 and getting informations by yourself is within reach just with one click. It's not like you need to go in a library looking for books anymore. Sure the medias have a responsability on this matter, but so have the people ! I know not everybody is curious but if something appears strange to you why not looking for informations on the subject ? I just wish people to be more open-minded and not always waiting for informations to get to them but actually go by themselves digging for them.
I went to Asia where they seldom see any black people and I never got the glances I have here while living in Italy, Europe. There, the main black figure they are used to is Beyonce, but I never heard someone telling me I looked like her or some other irrelevant stuff about black people I hear where I live. Of course some people would stare at me but I never felt they were disrespectful,and this eventhough foreigners are hardly accepted in asian countries. To me, this proves that people can still respect your differences even when not in contact with people of different ethnicities.
I am really happy you found my post and took time commenting it. Your point of view is an interesting one and eventhough I pointed out people's responsability, I am also sharing your point of view about medias having a responsability of not showcasion every type of beauty.
See you and again thanks a lot !
Shug